Watch children before they get trained to win, to triumph over others and worship symbols of power.
The seduction of our Spirit is so subtle in our education system that we do not notice it slowly slipping into submission until an emptiness shows up, perhaps known later as a mid-life crisis. Usually covered up, rationalized away, separated out and recatagorized as religious beliefs, it is difficult to reconnect authentically with this life force that ignites our ambition, inviting us to explore unknown territories. The rational mind defines life and then debates the limitations inside that limitation, inventing language along the way that serves to reinforce those limitations. Conflicts arise because we want others to join us when they have their own beliefs. The separate mind self has a need to be right so it separates itself even moreso by identifying the other as the enemy, something to subdue, triumph over and kill and then celebrate the victory. This is taught as history.
Without an identity forged in separation, a perception of wholeness is able to manuever around obstacles, allowing differences. One is able to dance with perceptions, change if desired, with no risk of “loosing.” In fact, there is no gain or loss when we dance with information, individuals being themselves. Isolated individuals are dangerous. Our isolation causes us to fear one another. The only reason people worship power is because we have lost our sense of connection, at a feeling level in the body, of that which we are and adapted to an image, created at a young age where we are alone against the world. Note the highest rate of suicide is teens.
We are taught to worship things outside ourselves, symbols of success. Having these things that lack true substance only further isolates us from ourselves. These attachments are destined to dissappoint. Yet school systems train us early on to get good grades by simply following directions, earning degrees for the sake of a piece of paper and outer approval, only to end up in soul-less jobs. No time for inner connection, contemplation and joy of learning something we set out to discover by simply following our curiosity instead. Oh, what we could be learning!
If we truly respect children, then we listen to them and their perspective. They in turn listen to ours. You listen to the things that interest them and provide opportunities to explore them further, rather than reach for the remote, ipod or cell phone to abate the boredom, entertainment rather than connection. As teens, they do not have to go out and find themselves because they never lost this innate connection with themselves. They also learn that nothing happens unless they do something to bring it about. This is called being responsible, not responsive to your expectations as parents or teachers, but responsible for meeting their own.
Confidence stems from responsibility. Creativity is when you do things with the ideas you have instead of being stuffed with ideas presented in a book, then tested. You read for information, to satisfy a need providing a connection to understanding. Understanding starts to happen, its not drill and paperwork. Something innate is brought forward and develops quite naturally as well; respect for others. We are all walking this path together. No one is alone. People in young bodies, some in old, many inbetween, all with stories, desires, loves, and disappointments. All are walking this path with you. You relate as equals. You empower each other; equal input, equal listening, equal struggle= comradery, holding positions within a whole, teachers as students, students as teachers. When you hold your own power, no one dare trespass.
To regain this innate power and exercise our wisdom from there is why I write. Its not about them trespassing, its about us re-membering ourselves and being in charge.